Is Living As Room Mates OK?


Thank you for your site, you have addressed many questions that sometimes goes around in my mind and opened my mind to many others that I was not even aware of. After drifting away from the church, I recommitted my life to the Lord 2 years ago. My husband and I were raised in the church but as far as I know, he has never asked Jesus Christ to be his Lord and Savior.

Lately, we have been drifting apart because I am totally committed to serving my Lord and King but he keeps saying he is not ready. He gets phone calls from women even late at night and claims they are just friends. My niece told me that he made a pass at her and she confronted him in my presence so he could not deny it. We are now living as roommates instead of husband and wife and have seperate bedrooms. While I continue to pray for him morning and evening, I am content with the current arrangements. As a child of God is it wrong to feel happy in not sharing a room with my husband?


In 1 Cor. 7:1-6 Paul said we’re not to deprive our spouse of marital relations except by mutual consent, and then only for a while in order to devote ourselves to prayer. If your husband’s interest in other women is due to your focus on the Lord at his expense then it’s a problem. The incident with your niece might be his way of telling you something is wrong. You can only know for sure by discussing it with him.