Do I Please God Or Obey My Husband?

Q. My husband is an unbeliever.  I tithe from my income (which is a small amount from social security, an “allowance” from my 401K and babysitting money).  This is a second marriage, and while my husband is very good to me personally, his god is his money.  He does not like that I tithe even though it is not from our overall income.  Since the Bible instructs wives to submit to their husbands, I am willing to stop all giving if this is what I am supposed to do, but I’ll be honest, it makes me sad.

A. As you already know this is the problem with being married to an unbeliever.  You have to continually balance the desire to please God with the need to be obedient to your spouse.   God knows the motive of your heart and the dilemma that puts you in.  If your husband insists that you stop giving, then stop.  If this causes the withdrawal of God’s blessing on his finances, then maybe your husband will come to understand that it’s not really his money after all.

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