The Only One Saved

I am the only saved one in my family. When I attend holidays and family functions, it is uncomfortable for me because there are untoward things going on, such as swearing, drinking, gossiping, and occasionally light gambling. I try to ignore it but it’s difficult. What would you recommend if you were in my shoes?

Q. My question centers on a Christian’s responsibility to his/her family during family functions. I am the only saved one in my family. When I attend holidays and family functions, it is uncomfortable for me because there are untoward things going on, such as swearing, drinking, gossiping, and occasionally light gambling. I try to ignore it but it’s difficult.

What would you recommend if you were in my shoes? If I don’t attend the functions at all, then I risk offending the family. When I do go, I’m uncomfortable. Your thoughts would be appreciated.

A. Sounds like your family is a lot like the folks Jesus was around through most of his ministry. He was able to love them without condoning their lifestyle, and His love for them often moved their hearts.

“Hate the sin but love the sinner,” we’re told. It’s easier said than done, especially with family, but think of how hard it must have been for Him. He already knew how each life would turn out, who would be saved and who would be lost. Yet He ate and drank with them, and even made some wine for them. Through it all He was never legalistic, never hypocritical, never condescending, and always loving.

You’re the body of Christ in your family. When he wants to hug them, He uses your arms. And when He wants to tell them He loves them, He uses your voice. And when they misbehave, you’re the one who has to say, “Father, forgive them. They don’t know what they’re doing.” If you can do that, pretty soon you won’t be the only one any more.