Relationship Issues
I’m a Christian and I’m involved in a relationship with a Christian man. We belong to the same church. We had recently moved together and things are not working out well. If you could give me your advice and scriptures that will lead me on the right path, on a real Christian relationship it will be greatly appreciated.
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I’m a Christian and I’m involved in a relationship with a Christian man. In which we belong to the same church. We had recently moved together and things are not working out well. I’m starting to see the real him in which I feel he is very controlling. He feels that I should not be supportive of my ex-boyfriends in which I have one particular ex who I give spiritual advice to. My boyfriend told me that I shouldn’t be counseling my ex boyfriend only him. I told him that I have love for every human being and if they need my support I’m here for them.
Since we been arguing lately I notice how he yells at me around my children. Now I’m starting to realize I cant take this anymore. My children don’t need to be around this type of behavior. I recently told me ex that we can no longer live together. That we need to get our relationship together before we go any further. Of course my boyfriend feels its all my fault that all my attention should be spent on him.
Deep down in my heart I know that God is trying to tell me something. Before I make the biggest mistake of my life and marry him. If you could give me your advice and scriptures that will lead me on the write path, on a real Christian relationship it will be greatly appreciated.
A. There are several things about your situation that have put you outside of God’s benevolence and made you fair game for the enemy’s mischief. First of all you’re apparently living together, but don’t consider yourselves to be married. Then you’re involved in some kind of a relationship with a former boyfriend. These are indications of a lack of commitment.
You’re doing the right thing by moving back into separate quarters. Now you need to confess and be forgiven for jumping the gun on your relationship. And unless you’re a professional counselor working in an official capacity with your ex, then help him find someone else for his counseling needs.
By doing these things you may find that your current relationship will improve, or you may find that you’re both still too self oriented to be in a relationship together. Either way you’ll come out ahead and can re-build your most important relationship, the one with the Lord. When you get things right with Him, everything else will come along too. (Matt. 6:33)
