I wanted to know if an old pastor was right when he said that, because I don’t speak in tongues I’m not saved and am going to hell. I’ve prayed hundreds of times to speak in tongues but can’t, I feel useless and sometimes like just giving up, “not on God though as I love Him too much”. Can you please give me some advise and/or some comfort in this situation?”
Your pastor was wrong. If you believe the Lord died to save you from your sins and rose again you are saved (Romans 10:9) and there’s nothing anyone can ever do to change that (Romans 8:38-39). The moment you asked for your salvation you received it (Matt. 7:7-8) and it’s guaranteed forever (Ephesians 1:13-14, 2 Cor 1:21-22).
Maybe the reason you can’t speak in tongues is that the Holy Spirit didn’t give you that gift. If that’s the case, you can be certain that He did give you at least one other gift. He distributes them just as He determines for the good of the body (1 Cor. 12:7-11). One of the most exciting discoveries of your life is learning what your spiritual gift is and how the Lord wants you to use it for the benefit of the body of Christ. The way to begin this journey of discovery is by applying Romans 12:1-2 in your life.
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God–this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.”