Q. Is there anywhere in the Bible that tells if God has a specific mate for us or that “one” person that we are destined to be with? Say if we married and wondered if we married the wrong or right person God had for us? Can we miss His will for our lives and miss our destiny and never be able to get it back?
A. Although we’re advised to avoid marrying an unbeliever (2 Cor. 6:14), there’s no clear indication in Scripture that God has a specific mate already picked for us. If we ask for His help and submit to His will, He will steer us toward the one He knows will best suit us, and will help us grow together, but ultimately the decision about who we marry is ours to make.
Many people wonder at some time or another if they married the wrong person. It’s only natural to second guess ourselves, especially if we’ve hit a rocky patch in the marriage. But the only way we can miss His will for our lives, whether we’re already married or not, is to refuse to seek it.
Romans 12:1-2 says we seek His will for our lives by offering our whole being as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to Him. We should not conform to the pattern of the world, which is to live a secular life, but to be transformed by the renewing of our mind. Then we’ll be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will. We can decide to do this at any time in our life, and God will meet us where we are and take us from there.