How Can He Be Forgiven?


I understand you can be forgiven of divorcing your spouse but where does that give you permission to remarry when the Bible clearly says that man cannot separate what God has joined together and that if you marry a divorced person you are committing adultery?

Those are only a couple of scripture references, there are plenty more. Years ago people couldn’t even get remarried in the church, only in the courthouse. Do we really think we know so much more and that Bible doesn’t mean what it says? Why does the Bible say adulterers won’t inherit the kingdom? Doesn’t NOT inheriting the kingdom mean you’re going to hell?

My husband left me for a teenage girl only 5 years older than our son. He has not been a father to our son since. The “church” today doesn’t condemn people like that. Everything is forgiven now. What ever happened to the turning the grace of God into licentiousness? The bible says one thing but people say it means another. So you can’t take anything at face value in the Bible?


This is probably not the answer you were hoping for, but there are 613 commandments in the Bible. Some seem bigger to us than others, but to God breaking any one of them is a sin. One of the great things about the Cross is that all sins can now be forgiven, big and little. The only unpardonable sin is refusing to accept the Lord’s death as payment for our sins.

The Bible doesn’t say that someone who commits adultery can’t go to heaven. Galatians 5:19 says, “The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

This means that people whose way of life is filled with acts that satisfy only their sin nature indicate by their behavior that they’re not saved. Every one of us does something on this list now and then, but that doesn’t disqualify us from the Kingdom. The Lord knew every one of our sins before we committed even one of them, and took them all to the cross. When we ask Him to save us they’re all wiped away, even those that are still in our future.

Your husband committed a terrible sin by divorcing you and abandoning your son. Obviously this has caused you much pain. But if he’s a believer he’s been forgiven because all of his sins were nailed to the cross just like all of yours and mine. If you haven’t forgiven him, you should realize that unresolved anger is also a sin (Matt. 5:22 & Ephes. 4:26) and ask the Lord to help you put this terrible time behind you, and restore peace to your life.