Q. I got married more than 16 years ago to a young woman that I was fornicating with. This marriage resulted in divorce due to constant fights, physical abuse (from her part), and even participation in witchcraft, which I am ashamed to say, I participated too. Before getting divorced, my ex-wife told me that she had sex with her previous boyfriend.
During that horrible time, my best friend back home led me to the Lord. I have been married to my second wife for 12 years now, and we both believe in GOD.
Because I sincerely believe we are in the End Times, I have been studying scripture and I found a website teaching that adultery (remarriage) is a state of being and not a single action, meaning that even though I have repented of my divorce and remarriage, I am still in a adulterous relationship, therefore I am unsaved and going to hell when I die. I cannot change the past, or can I? Can I be forgiven or do I have to get divorced and stay single?
A. Think about what you’re saying. For it to be true, divorce, even divorce before becoming a believer would have to be an unpardonable sin, not eligible for forgiveness ever. It would have to be excluded from the list of sins Jesus nailed to the cross and died for. (Col. 2:13-14) And if you divorce your current wife wouldn’t you only be committing the same sin again?
In His teaching on divorce Jesus was telling the Jews that their laws making divorce legal did not mean that it was no longer a sin. God expects a man and woman to marry once, and for life. The only justification for divorce is adultery, and even then it’s not mandatory. But like every sin except the one of rejecting the pardon that the Lord purchased for us with His blood, divorce is forgiven when we confess and ask for it (1 John 1:9)
As for your salvation it’s impossible for you to lose it. The Holy Spirit was sealed within you the moment you first believed as a deposit guaranteeing your inheritance. (Ephes. 1:13-14) At that time you were given to Jesus and it’s God’s will that He would never lose you. (John 6:39-40) No one can snatch you out of his hand (John 10:28-30) and nothing in all of creation can separate you from His love. (Romans 8:38-39)
Divorcing your current wife would break up the family you’ve dedicated to the Lord and wouldn’t solve anything. It would only make things worse. Confess and seek forgiveness and it will immediately be granted, and you will be purified from all unrighteousness.