I know and agree that we are not to judge others, but what are we to do when they do not believe that their actions are sinful, when they have accepted Satan’s lies? Are we not to properly instruct them about God’s commandments? Jesus told us to love our neighbors. Can we just let them go to hell? I think not. I try to teach them the truth without judging their actions. I think the difference is whether you are motivated by anger or by love. If by anger, you are probably judging.
As a business consultant I worked with many companies helping them improve their customer service. Early in my career whenever I personally received poor service I sent that company’s president a brochure about my services and included testimonies of documented improvements from past clients. Then I followed up with a phone call asking for an opportunity for further discussion. I never got a positive response so I stopped doing it. I learned that constructive criticism only produces change when the other party has asked for it.
I believe this is what Paul was talking about when he wrote that we show contempt for the riches of God’s kindness, tolerance, and patience when we fail to realize that it’s His kindness that leads us to repentance (Romans 2:3-4). Jesus didn’t go to the cross so bad men could become good. He went to the cross so dead men could live. That’s His kindness at work, and that’s what we should be telling people about.