Why is this question avoided by churches and or pastors, other than it’s wrong? Just read Galatians 5:19-21 and 1 Cor 6:9. Obviously I could go on and on, but We need to teach people and be bold. If people understand their righteousness, these questions would not even be brought up by believers. Your spiritual life needs to be larger than your physical life. You feed the spirit by reading your bible. The bible doesn’t mince words yet people keep asking pastors till they get the answer they want.
I think you have unfairly characterized the questioner as someone who keeps asking until they get the answer they want.
And for what it’s worth, neither 1 Cor. 6:9 nor Galatians 5:19-21 apply here. This was not a case of someone who is sexually immoral, and looking for justification. This couple has not been intimate. It was a question about when God sees a couple as being married. In addition, in 1 Cor. 6:9 the Greek word translated “wicked” in many English language versions actually means “unrighteous.” Born again Christians are righteous by definition, having been imputed a righteousness from God through faith in Jesus Christ (Romans 3:21-24).
And finally, here is the questioner’s response to the answer I gave.
“Thank you so much. We have agreed to wait until the traditional wedding. It will be hard to do but we feel that it is not only best for us but also as an example to his son (soon to be mine :). Thank you for taking the time to respond.”
The Lord had good reasons for telling us not to judge others (Matt. 7:1, 1 Cor. 4:5). Only He knows the motives of our heart.