Q. I have a question about divorce. What happens if you get a divorce and remarry in the future? The Bible says that adulterers will not see the kingdom of God so does that mean if a believer gets a divorce and remarries that they are no longer saved and that God is done with them? Does God then hate them? would He rather watch a married couple tear each other apart and be in His will for marriage than have them apart? I am deeply confused. All I know is that for many reasons I don’t want to be with my husband but I also don’t want to loose God. What can I do?
A. Divorce for any reason other than your spouse’s adultery is a sin, and God hates all sin. But because of what happened on the cross He will never hate you (Colossians 1:19-20). When you became a believer every sin of your life was forgiven, even those you haven’t committed yet, and your salvation was guaranteed. Colossians 2:13-14, Ephes. 1:13-14 and 2 Cor. 1:21-22 confirm this. Also Jesus said He will never drive you away (John 6:37) and that no power in heaven or on earth can ever take you away from Him (John 10:27-30). Not even you can separate yourself from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:38-39).
Therefore, Christians are not supposed to avoid divorce for fear of losing our salvation. We’re supposed to avoid divorce because it is not pleasing to God.
Finally, if both parties in the marriage are living to please God and following His will for them, no marriage would consist of the couple tearing each other apart. The wife would submit to her husband as to the Lord, and the husband would love his wife as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself up for her (Ephes. 5:22-28). Seeing them act toward each other in this way, the Lord would bless their marriage, and there would be no talk of divorce.