Q. My husband and I have been married for 5 years now. Throughout these five years my husband has participated in cybersex and views porn. When I confront him, he denies it and becomes very angry with me. He says as Christians we fall all the time but we just need to get back up and ask God for forgiveness. Am I obligated to stay married to him? He promises to stop all the time but he never does. This is ruining my life.
A. The dictionary defines cybersex as any sexual activity, display, or discussion engaged in by means of a computer. Comparing this definition with Matt. 5:28, one could conclude your husband has committed adultery because the Lord said anyone who looks lustfully upon another woman has already committed adultery with her in his heart. That being the case, you have Biblical grounds for divorce should you choose to seek one.
Your husband is correct in saying that the Lord grants forgiveness every time we seek it. But that doesn’t relieve us of the earthly consequences of our behavior. A Christian who robs a bank will likely go to jail even though the Lord forgives him. Likewise, one who commits adultery can receive the Lord’s forgiveness but still wind up divorced.