How Can I Help My Uncle?

Q. I wasn’t sure if my uncle was a true believer or not, so I have been sending some things to him regarding bible prophecy, etc. With the Rapture so close, I guess I just wanted to make sure he had his act together regarding belief in Christ. His e-mails seemed to reflect someone who is very bitter and angry. He revealed to me that he used to go to church, pray, etc., but since the murder of his daughter years ago, he turned his back on Christianity. I think he’s angry at God for what happened and wants nothing to do with religion of any sort. I don’t know if he was ever a true believer (ie, accepting Christ as his savior), but how does one provide and explanation or comfort one who has become so angry and bitter.

A. This is a tough one. Although anger is a sin (Ephesians 4:26-27), we can all understand why he feels this way. The problem is He’s angry with the wrong person. God didn’t cause his daughter’s death. The world is a sinful place and things often happen without rhyme or reason. God is the only one who can help your uncle find peace, but until he understands this there can’t be any resolution.

The Bible says that even though we’re children of God, the whole world is under the control of the evil one (1 John 5:19) so he’s the one to blame here. But Jesus said that while we will have trouble in this world, we can take heart because He’s overcome the world (John 16:33).

If your uncle was truly saved, nothing can cause His salvation to be lost, and the Lord is waiting with open arms to comfort him. James 4:8 says when we draw near to God He will draw near to us. Tell your uncle it’s OK to yell and scream at the Lord and to vent all his anger and frustration, but turning his back on the Lord has the same effect it has in earthly relationships. It prevents closure and leaves us with only our anger.

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