Q. I struggle with being the mother of a lesbian. I love my daughter but totally believe that her lifestyle is a sin. She knows my thoughts and is respectful. My question is, where do I draw the line? She lives out of state and when she comes home for holidays and brings her partner, do I overlook the fact that they sleep together? Do I accept the lifestyle to keep peace? I just don’t know where I should draw the line. I don’t want to lose her but I don’t want her to think that I accept the lifestyle. I would appreciate your thoughts.
A. I think you’re letting what she does obscure the reality of who she is. She is first and foremost your daughter. I suggest you explain to her that while you don’t condone it, you’re not going to let her behavior prevent you from loving her since you believe a mother’s love is something that transcends behavior.
The Pharisees criticized Jesus for associating with sinners (Matt. 9:11), believing He was condoning their behavior by doing so. But when He said, “As I have loved you, you must love one another” (John 13:34), He was telling us to separate the person from the behavior by letting His love for us be reflected in our love for each other.