Q. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now, and I’m still not sure if he’s a believer. Is it a sin to continue a relationship with him and even marrying him if he still ends up being a non-believer? I’m very concerned for him. If I stay on with him, I really hope another few years down the road, I’ll see changes in his belief because I would like to build a family with a husband and a father who goes to church with me and my children.
But my family doubts he’ll change since we’ve been dating for 6 years already. But I believe nothing is impossible with God as I know it takes great faith for it to happen. To stay positive, I view it as a time of testing and trial from God. Having said that,I’m still rather confused and don’t know what else to do next. Will other Christians view it as a sin? Will my parents be upset? Will God be angry and punish me?
A. First of all, marrying an unbeliever isn’t a sin, it’s just something the Bible warns us about because it makes our life so difficult, as you can already see. Second, God doesn’t punish us for our sins, He already punished Jesus for them. You and God are at peace. (Colossians 1:19-20) As long as you aren’t insisting on being married right now, and as long as there’s hope if you wait, then I suggest if you really love him, then wait a while longer. You’ve told him how you feel, now invest your energy in praying for him. I suggest you study 1 Peter 3:1-6 and see what the Lord impresses upon your mind.