Q. I would like to ask you about your opinion on Soul Mates. Is it a purely Romantic notion, or is it a God Ordained one? I know we’re at the brink of the Rapture and the way the world is going you can tell that everything is coming to an end quickly. However I am still very young and wish to find someone I can cleave unto. Should I stop praying for love and focus on the Lord?
A. In 1 Cor. 7:7-9 Paul said he wished all men could stay unmarried like he was, but if they couldn’t control their passion they should marry. He said celibacy is a gift from God and not all men have it.
He went on to say that a marital relationship brings obligations that by their nature require us to be less than totally devoted to God (1 Cor. 7:32-35).
Also, marrying for love is a relatively new concept in human history. Throughout most of the age of man marriage has been an economic and cultural necessity. Wives were taken primarily to ensure that there would be an heir to keep property in the family, help to work the land, and to help care for the parents in their old age.
That’s not to say there was no love in these relationships. Abraham and Sarah, and Jacob and Rachael give evidence that there was. But in most cases the love blossomed after the couple was married, not before hand.
Based on these things, I believe the concept of a “soul mate” is more a romantic notion than a God ordained one.