Q. My husband and I have 2 young children together and have both been believers for about 6 years. In that time I have grown a lot as a Christian and am very passionate about God. I am not afraid to admit that I am obsessed with God and His Kingdom.
My husband has been slower in his growth and is mostly living for what this world can offer him. He worries about money and possessions and doesn’t feel he needs to tithe. As his wife I feel very differently and feel I would like to give all myself to God and trust in Him to provide for us.
I also have taken an interest in End Times Prophecy and want to talk to my husband about it, but he shuts me off whenever I bring it up. It seems he is turning a blind eye, but I think he may be scared.
I love my husband very much and do not want to live without him, however I feel torn between him and God. How can I live my life pleasing to God and to give Him glory, and also be a good, supportive wife to my husband, without him feeling like I am leaving him behind? What does the Bible say about this?
A. It would never be God’s will for your faith to drive a wedge between you and your husband. In fact one of the ways a wife honors God is to honor her husband. Spend some time reading and reflecting on 1 Peter 3:1-6, especially verse 1-2. “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”
I know you’ve said your husband is a believer, but I think that by following the advice of these verses you can lead him into the deeper faith you’re experiencing with out appearing to have displaced him as the spiritual head of your household. Wives are quite often ahead of their husbands in this area, especially when the husband is preoccupied with the things of this world. Most husbands have been taught since child hood that it’s their responsibility to provide these things, and it’s hard to let go of that. Sooner or later he’ll recognize the peace you’ve found, begin comparing it to the stress he feels, and the door will be open.