Q. I was married to a man who looked at pornographic movies, and magazines and was always lusting after other women. When I asked my pastor if that was adultery, he wouldn’t answer me, but told me to try to hold the marriage together. I was a Christian, but my husband was not. After many years of misery with this man, I divorced him. Was this situation adultery on his part?
A. Our word pornography comes from a Greek word that means fornication. Matt. 5:28 says that a man who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery in his heart. God judges man according to the motives of his heart, and to Him thinking is as bad as doing. Some secular counselors are now defining the act of allowing a sexual attraction to blossom to the point of distracting a married person as committing emotional adultery.