Q. What do you think is the best way to approach a family member who is an unbeliever and is so angry about losing a loved one that she has cursed God. She has also been utterly indoctrinated in a liberal college Theology course that scoffs at true Christianity and is anti Israel. I pray for her daily but fear she is very close to being lost forever. I am grateful for your ministry and any thoughts.
A. Take a look behind what your family member is saying and ask yourself, “Why would a person curse someone she doesn’t believe in?” As you say, she is angry. But by taking her anger out on God she is admitting that she believes there is a God.
Anger is one of the stages of grief, and even true believers can sometimes be angry with God in times of loss. This is probably not a good time to discuss the issue with her, but it is a good time to pray that her heart will be softened, as you’re already doing, so you can have a discussion later.
Be sure to pray that she’ll move through this stage and not get stuck there, as some do, but will come to the Lord for comfort. It’s the very best thing you can do for her, and it pleases God to see you doing this, because He wants everyone to be saved and come to a knowledge of the truth (1 Tim. 2:1-4).
“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us–whatever we ask–we know that we have what we asked of him” (1 John 5:14-15).