Q. I am saved and love the Lord and want so badly to honor him but I am in a relationship that does not honor the Lord. Many times, way too many to count I have tried to end the relationship. And I confess the sin desiring to make my relationship right with God. I hate that I am caught up in this relationship and my life is truly miserable because of it. I haven’t been able to free myself from it and I feel like a total failure before the Lord. I hate what my life has become; the sin entanglement is sucking the life out of me. Why can’t I muster the courage to end it once and for all? What hope do I have? I don’t want to pretend I will go to Heaven when from scripture it appears I am bound for Hell and I am sure many would agree that is where I will end up. I want the truth even if the truth is this ungodly relationship is sending me to Hell. What a failure and disappointment I must be to the Lord. I am not asking for a stamp of approval for my behavior( I know it is sin) but please help me sort through the misery I find myself in.
A. People are not sent to Hell for their sins. If they were, we’d all be going there. People send themselves to Hell for refusing to accept the remedy the Lord provided for their sins, and that’s to accept His death as payment in full for their redemption.
There are many believers in situations like yours, but take heart. The fact that you’re feeling convicted about your relationship is evidence that the Holy Spirit is calling you out of it, and with your help He will succeed. Keep asking for His strength, because you’ve demonstrated that this is not something you can do on your own. Remember Zechariah 4:6 ‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the LORD Almighty. In the mean time be assured that whenever we sin, no matter what that sin is, we are forgiven as soon as we confess (1 John 1:9) because Jesus has already paid for every sin of our lives (Col. 2:13-14).