Q. I lost my wife 4 months ago and I very much want to go and be with her in heaven. In fact I’ve been praying for that to happen. Until it does, I’ve decided to remain alone. But I’ve been told that’s wrong, and that I should look for another woman to marry. Where does God’s word say I need to remarry? If I wish to remain unmarried until I leave this world, what’s wrong with that?
A. I’m sure the people telling you to move on and find another wife are doing so out of concern for your happiness, but there’s no Biblical requirement for you to re-marry. If you wish to remain single and are willing and able to accept the hardships of living alone then that’s your right. In fact, Paul advised unmarried believers to remain so in order to devote all their energy to serving God. (1 Cor. 7:8 & 32-34)
But I will advise you to find an active way to serve to the Lord so as to make good use of the time you have left. Sitting alone at home and thinking only about the life you shared with your wife and longing to be with her is a recipe for misery and will give the enemy a great opportunity to torment you.
I’m certain there are many volunteer ministry opportunities available to you. Pick one that keeps you busy and gives you a sense of fulfillment. You’ll be providing a valuable service to others and making the time until you see your wife again go much faster.
Paul said, “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord” (Romans 12:10-11)