Q. My sister in law refuses to forgive me for an argument that happened last year. I asked for forgiveness and apologized for what I did wrong, but she has never acknowledged any of her wrong-doing and refuses to speak to me. She has basically cut me out of her life. I was just wondering where do I go from here? I want things to be better and I want reconciliation, but she won’t have anything to do with me. Please help me. I am having a hard time with this.
A. You’ve been faithful to seek forgiveness, but your ongoing feelings of distress tell me that you still feel guilty about what happened. Understand that once you’ve asked the Lord and the other party for forgiveness, any remaining guilt you feel is from Satan trying to keep you from receiving the peace your faithfulness has earned.
The Lord has forgiven you (1 John 1:9). Ask Him to take away your anger, and keep praying for your sister-in-law (Matt. 5:44). Resist Satan and He’ll flee from you (James 4:7). Keep doing these things until you receive the peace He’s promised you (Phil 4:7). Once she sees you’re at peace about this your sister-in-law will come around, because she wants peace too.