Q. I’m saved but my husband isn’t. He smokes marijuana,and drinks beer all the time. What does the bible say about this and what can I do? What are some scriptures to help me meditate on concerning this? Please Help!!!! I really don’t want to leave him because he is a good provider but I’ve thought about it. Is it biblical okay to leave him because of this? I really want to do the biblical thing!!!
A. Paul admonished believers not to leave their unbelieving spouses (1 Cor. 7:12-13) And Peter gave the best advice on how a believing wife could influence an unbelieving husband toward accepting the Lord.
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. (1 Peter 3:1-6)
To that I would add, “Pray without ceasing.” Ultimately your husband will decide the nature of his relationship with the Lord, but prayer changes things. In the meantime remember, you’re not doing these things for him because he deserves it, but because it’s pleasing to the Lord. The least you’ll receive for doing this is an eternal reward, but you could very well wind up enjoying it with him.
By the way, for believing husbands of unbelieving wives reading this, your passages are Ephesians 5:25-31 & 1 Peter 3:7