I am having hard time getting perspective on the death of my mom. I had become her care giver and we fought a good fight together. She overcame much and was a best friend and guide. She was not perfect and there were still issues between us, but she was a deep part of my life. I took care of her for the last 15 years. I even saved her life on many occasions.

In October, she suddenly fell very ill- i had a bad feeling about it. She became confused, weak and had to go on oxygen. I then spent 3 months and innumerable visits to doctors, specialists and the nursing home to try to get answers as to what was wrong with my mom. I never did get that answer, in fact the week before she died, the doctor told me that she was fine and why did our family insist on getting her into the hospital.

The nursing was as good as possible, but they kept calling me telling me something was bad wrong and the doc was not doing anything. I did not know who to believe. Mom kept failing. It was horrible.

Finally after being told she was in congestive heart failure after those 3 months, mom lasted another week and after a good visit having no idea she was dying, she peacefully went on a few days later, but i did not get to see her or be with her again. I am having a hard time forgiving the horror of these last months and the pain the docs put me through. Can you help me with some perspective?

I am struggling very much with the concept of forgiveness and anger. This ongoing struggle has caused me great pain for several years. I know that God commands us to forgive others as we have been forgiven. Even so, I am having a hard time forgiving a family member who betrayed my trust and stole a large sum of money that she’s unable to pay back. I am unsure how to reconcile my emotional response of anger vs. my logical desire to forgive. Is it possible to forgive her while remaining angry?

Other than Jabez (1 Chronicles 4:9-10) Can you give me scriptural evidence of anyone in the Word of God asking for financial prosperity? Is it not God who chooses to bless us as long as we remain in Him and and seek His Kingdom and His righteousness. I believe prosperity is a by-product or benefit of a relationship with God not the center piece of it. I believe God wants us to ask Him for a humble heart. Look at King Solomon. He asked for wisdom! Every time we see someone getting blessed it is because God did the blessing out of His Love, not because the “blessee” asked for it.

I am very concerned that getting angry at God, telling Him off, and tearing the Bible means God will never forgive me. I have since seen the error of my way and even when I thought I had been doing God’s will before this incident, I was wrong. I had been baptized before all this happened. Will God forgive me now?

Could you clarify for me the difference between the Roman Centurion who asks Jesus once to heal his servant, and why we are told to pray unceasingly as the widow petitioned the judge? I believe that I only need to ask God once for something, then I can leave the matter with him. Am I taking the easy way out?

In one of your commentaries on the Psalms you wrote this about the Jews: “Much of this will come from the realization that God will have just intervened in a battle where they were on the brink of defeat and given them a resounding victory.” My first question is : could this statement become a truth, a reality in a Christian believer’s life too? I mean, when we face seemingly insolvable problems, troubles and hardships. And what can we do? Only asking the Lord to intervene in the mentioned way is enough or there are conditions?

I have read here and there in a few of your answers (the most recent is: Am I wrong to be angry?) that we can ask God to forgive another’s sin. Could you tell me where that is in the Bible? I find it hard to comprehend that I can ask God and He will forgive another’s sin even though that person has not repented. What if they are not a believer? Can I still ask and how does that work?

I recently received a Daily Devotion from a Christian website, which began as follows: “Do we fully understand what it costs the kingdom of God when we live with a restricted commitment to Christ? Countless souls may never hear the good news, much-needed Christian workers may never put feet to their faith, and prayers that would have been answered are never uttered.”

This statement disturbed me, because it seems to imply that our shortcomings can somehow prevent God’s Will from being done in the lives of others. I can understand how our decisions directly effect our own lives, but if we fail to witness to someone, for example, does this mean that they will never hear the Good News and in effect, we are hindering their salvation? Thank you for bringing clarity to issues like this that are not always so easy to understand.

I was attending a church in my small town and really enjoyed it at first. But the longer I attended I noticed that there were quite a few people (the more well to do) that felt they owned the church as well as the pastor of the church. One of the ladies even asked the pastor if she was still the one that gave the most money to the church. One elderly couple in the church are not happy unless they are running the financial end of the church and when the pastor disagreed with this man on an issue, the man decided to have his tithe designated to a certain thing in the church and convinced others also to do the same thing. That way there would not be enough money in the fund to pay the pastor his wages. This is only a small amount of what this church has done. I felt angry every time I attended so I quit!

I read my Bible daily and I pray throughout the day. Am I wrong for quitting and for feeling angry at these people? Our pastor was a genuine God loving, Bible preaching pastor. If God put him in that church what right did they have running him off? This is not the first time this has happened. Our church is still without a pastor. I pray for the church but sometimes I don’t mean what I pray. Honestly, I would love to see some of these people fall flat on their faces. I know that is not a christian attitude but they are just wrong. I thought God owned the church and we were to depend on him to lead us. I refuse to follow any man. I guess I just don’t belong there. What is your opinion?

My wife and I disagree over the topic of how many times on Sunday we must attend church. We both come from Baptist backgrounds but I was always a Sunday morning person and she was raised in the belief that you should attend twice on Sunday. I work a lot through the week and weekends are the only time I have to get all the chores around the house completed. Does it state anywhere in the Bible that it is “required” to attend church twice on Sunday, or is this just an individual choice?